I’d like to start this post with a couple of blanket statements. First, I don’t like politics. It is a part of democracy that is full of corruption and generally makes my heart hurt.
Second, I consider myself to be a rational, empathetic, good person. I have always had friends who were Democrats, who were Republicans, friends who loved Jesus, loved other deities, and just plain didn’t care one way or the other. I never considered those to be major issues. We don’t all have to agree with one another to love each other. I personally am a white agnostic woman, who believes in Science and unicorns and is deeply protective of the people I love. My oldest son is a bi-racial atheist who believes in Science and thinks my unicorns are dumb. Some of my very best friends unironically wear ‘Mama runs on Coffee and Jesus’ t-shirts. I’ve never once gotten into a religious debate with any of them.
Because I’ve always believed it doesn’t matter. We’re all just people, far more alike than different. And my beliefs are neither more or less important than yours- they’re just different.
But then the election happened- and pooped all over my Joy.
I tried so hard to stay out of it. I didn’t unfriend anyone on social media for posting their support of “him”-(he who shall not be named). I only got into 2 (very minor) arguments with people over his proposed policies. I continued to make sure that I was informed- but I didn’t shout that information at anyone.
And then he won. And I was devastated. I admit it, I was one of those people who needed about a week to process before I could fully function. I was terrified that the world had just changed in a way that none of us really wanted. And yet, I cradled my Joy, and protected it the best I could. I accepted that we needed to wait and give him a chance.
Well, its been 10 days since he was sworn in and it’s pretty clear that he is far worse than most of us even dreamed.
And while I do not post this with the intention of attacking anyone- regardless of who you voted for- I can’t in good conscience remain quiet anymore. I posted a shorter version of this blog post over on my FB page, in a fit of civic guilt after reading a particularly moving post, and ever since I did that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about what I’m going to say when my future grandkids ask me about this.
So when my beautiful, intelligent, multi-racial grandkids are sitting with me on the porch and ask me that question I want to be able to calmly apply some essential oils and tell them:
*It happened because people were lied to and misled, not because most people are as hateful as he is.
*I did not vote for him, but as an American- it was my duty to accept the results of the election and give him a chance. And I did- until it became evident that his intent was actually to tear my country apart. And then I didn’t.
*I was a member of the Love Army and Wall-Of-Us- two peaceful protest movements. I can not condone violence anymore than I can condone apathy.
*We were able to stop the madness before he actually tore apart the country or irreversibly destroyed any lives (fingers crossed on this one).
*I raised their fathers to be rational, empathetic, good men who know the difference between right and wrong. Who know to question everything and who weigh important decisions based on how they will not only affect them personally, but also on how they will affect others.
*I worked hard to maintain my integrity, sanity, community, and most of all Joy- because that is the only way that I know how to live a healthy and happy life.
In case you’re interested in the Love Army or Wall-Of-Us: